Gaston: How can you read this? There’s no pictures!
Belle: Well, some people use their imaginations.
My response to a question
Gracias
“You, as much as anyone in the entire universe, deserve your love and respect.” Buddha
You were the victim of cruel and unfortunate circumstances. Pain, loss, confusion, anger, blame, and the like are all part of going through that kind of experience. You are only human, even on your best day. It is ok to react like a human being.
There is always second guessing. You are not to blame, but for argument’s sake, let’s say it was your fault. Are you not allowed to make mistakes? Ever? Perfection is a very high bar to set for anyone, especially yourself. It’s ok to make mistakes in choices, in planning, in actions. Even if you made a mistake, it’s ok. You can always begin again.
Nothing is ever ruined forever. Simply begin again… in love, in forgiveness, in acceptance of yourself.
You want to be somewhere you’re not. You want to be someone you’re not. You may want to be with someone you’re not with. All is just attachment to desire, clinging to what you don’t have. There is a word for that. Buddhists call it suffering.
Why cause unnecessary suffering to yourself? There is enough pain in the world without making yourself miserable.
You want to go home. There’s nothing wrong with that, but it won’t make you ultimately happy. John Maxwell said, “No matter where you go, there you are.” You will face the same struggles at home that you face now; they will just have different labels and faces.
If you can be happy now, right now, where you are, in this moment, in Spain, Italy, Idaho, your job, your bed, your body, your breath, inhaling, exhaling, inhaling, exhaling, inhaling, exhaling… You can be happy now. You can be free of suffering.
If you don’t like the circumstances you find yourself in, and you have the power to change them, change them. If you can’t change them, why waste even a moment being unhappy?
You have all the answers you need within. Don’t spend a lifetime looking for them elsewhere.
I wish you well, friend. It will be o.k. No matter what, it will be o.k.
~Namaste
favourite films:
Pride and Prejudice (2005)And then the music you’ll recognise as being the music that we first hear when we enter Longbourn at the very, very beginning of the film….also by Dario, the composer,who composed it before we started filming. The reason I used the same music is because it would remind her of home.That finding the person you’re supposed to be with is like coming home.And that even though this house is so completely different from her house…it’s the same spirit, the same music moves there. (X)
- Joe Wright director’s commentary
